7 Your Teeth Are Yellowish Dental hygiene has come a long, long way since we were kids. There's no need to get all Ryan Seacrest-y and obsessive about your megawatt smile, but there's something about yellowish teeth that says "Dust Bowl-era dirt farmer," and that's not an association you want people to have when they see you. Crest White Strips are these contraptions that a lot of ladies use very occasionally (less frequently than eyebrow-plucking, to give you a sense) that actually work to whiten your teeth. Again, you can do this in the privacy of your home, while watching TV. No one has to know. This is a classic lazy-not-ugly problem that guys have without even realizing it.

8 You Wear T-Shirts Every Day Take a minute and be completely honest with yourself. Could you stand to lose at least five pounds? Most guys could -- don't beat yourself up about it. Here's the second part of the question. Are T-shirts your default type of shirt? Like, do you only bother with a button-down if you're compelled to look "nice" for something? If you answered yes to both of those questions, you need to trust me when I tell you that the simple act of buttoning up a button-down in the morning rather than throwing on a T-shirt will make you look significantly more handsome in the eyes of many women -- especially if you can stand to lose a few pounds. Button-downs forgive a man about 15 pounds. It's like a free pass to be a little bit chubby -- which is, frankly, a very valuable free pass, and one that you should not be too lazy to ignore. T-shirts on chubby males are only cute if the males in question are toddlers

9 You Sweat Too Much Are you a dude who sweats a lot even when you're not exerting yourself? There are a ton of possible causes for this, and many of them have nothing to do with laziness, unfortunately. But let's address a possible cause here, and one you can do something about: You wear cheap shirts made of synthetic materials. If your shirts contain any amount of acrylic, polyester, Spandex or Lycra -- and many cheap mall-acquired dress shirts and sweaters do -- then you're sweating more than you need to. Stick with natural fibers -- cotton, linen, cashmere. Avoid silk, obviously. You'll find that you sweat less, and your clothes will look better. You may not notice the difference, but ladies will

Here are 10 common appearance pitfalls that guys fall into that could be completely avoided if they were just a little less lazy. Even guys who are born ugly can benefit from this advice. So are you ugly or just lazy? Chances are, it's the latter. (10) You Have A Unibrow If you have a unibrow, I can guarantee that a woman has looked at you and thought to herself, not unkindly, "That's a shame." You can tweeze those, you know? Tweezers are handy to keep around for splinters and such, so don't feel weird about buying them. You don't have to tweeze more than once a week to keep your brow-bridge under control. It'll make your eyes water, but the more you do it, the less it hurts. Also, making your eyes water in the privacy of your own bathroom is really a small price to pay for a significant improvement in your appearance that no amount of cologne could ever replicate

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’m sitting here enjoying a hot cup tea, trying to get the creative juices flowing for this next article. Since everyone loves top lists, I thought I’d give you guys something you probably don’t see too often, a quick list of some practical fashion tips. Here are 15 Quick Fashion tips: 1. Fit is King– The most dramatic improvement you can make in your style is to make sure everything fits impeccably. Most guys wear clothes that are too large. Make sure everything you wear isalmosthugging the shape of your body–without being tight. Bad fit is an epidemic,cure yourself. 2. Keep it simple– You want a wardrobe that looks great on you, but don’t overdo it. Don’t wear more than three pieces of jewelry or more than three colors. Don’t dress like a rock star unless you’re in a band. If you want to be flashy, a simpler but stylish look would be sporting a black striped dress shirt with a white blazer, a dark pair of jeans, a dressy belt, and your sharpest dress shoes. You could also add a flashy watch or a simple accessory like an interesting necklace, but nothing more. Check out out our article on basics to refresh yourself on what are essential wardrobe items. 3. Change the way you see casual–casual doesn’t have to be boring. Have fun withcollared shirts, or take some inspiration from those who approach casual a bit differently. 4.Pay attention to your supporting pieces- Some sweaters are lean and others are big and chunky. The first rule of thumb is that your top and bottom halves need to match. If you’re wearing a big, chunky, rugged fisherman knit sweater, your bottom needs to be rugged, too. Don’t wear a fisherman’s sweater with a beautiful silk-and-wool suit pant. Instead, wear it with something as casual as cargos or jeans, or dress it up with a Harris tweed blazer. 5. Never go shopping alone– Most of the time, it’s tough to trust the sales people because they usually work for commission. Shop with a friend who will give you their honest opinion. 6. Stay a notch above–Don’t overdo it to a fault, but dare to take some risks. It’s always better to be a little bit overdressed than underdressed in any setting. All you have to do is think about where and who you’re going to be with and just step it up one notch. But make sure you’re not better dressed than someone who is more important in a certain setting, like your boss. 7.Never underestimate the power of details– The last thing on is usually the first thing noticed. So mind the details instead of throwing together the main parts of your outfit.“Details”can include a scarf, a subtle pocket square, or the way you tie yourtie knot. 8. Invest in a superb pair of shoes– If it’s one thing that women will notice, it’s your shoes. Especially how clean and sharp they look. It’s easy to wash and press the rest of your clothes to keep them looking new, but most guys disregard their shoes. Show that you’re a man of taste by getting agreat pair of shoesand keeping them in pristine condition. 9. Fashion Tees with logos– When you’re going around with a big logo on your shirt, you risk looking like a walking billboard. Lose the lame Coca-Cola shirt and go for a classic v-neck tee or something artsy. 10. Disregard trends– Beware of buying something just because it’s “in” right now–stick to what you truly like. A lot of people rush to get in on the latest trend and end up with a bunch of clothes they don’t wear. It’s better to learn to build a versatile and timeless wardrobe first–then bring in your own twists with some of the new fashion. This one tip will save you so much money! 11. Don’t be a sucker for brand names–Don’t be a Patrick Bateman. Before you decide to purchase an item, ask yourself if you are buying it simply because of the brand name or because you love the quality and style. Ask yourself, “Would I buy this if there was no logo on it?” 12. Continually cultivate your image–Invest more time and money into your image. Cultivate your fashion sense. Your style is a huge mode of communication, and is worth caring for as much as your education, career, and relationships. Oscar Schoffler, longtime fashion editor of Esquire once said,“Never underestimate the power of what you wear. After all, there’s just a small bit of yourself sticking out at the collar and cuff. The rest of the world sees what you drape on your frame.” 13. Ask for real feedback- Most of your friends and family aren’t going to go out of their way to tell you what looks bad. You have to ask for it. In fact, ask anyone and everyone you trust to tell you the truth. Ask your hairstylist, ask your best friend, ask your mother! 14.Upgrade your shave- Even if your fashion is golden, an unkempt beard can be an attraction killer. Achieve aperfect shaveby trying a shave brush&old-fashioned double-edged razor. 15. Experiment with style– The only way you’ll really learn, is if you go out there and try new things. I make an effort to try something completely out of my comfort zone whenever I’m at a store–many times you’ll end up loving something you never thought you would. If you make mistakes, life goes on. So many guys are afraid to express themselves through their style, don’t be one of them.

’m sitting here enjoying a hot cup tea, trying to get the creative juices flowing for this next article. Since everyone loves top lists, I thought I’d give you guys something you probably don’t see too often, a quick list of some practical fashion tips. Here are 15 Quick Fashion tips: 1. Fit is King– The most dramatic improvement you can make in your style is to make sure everything fits impeccably. Most guys wear clothes that are too large. Make sure everything you wear isalmosthugging the shape of your body–without being tight. Bad fit is an epidemic,cure yourself. 2. Keep it simple– You want a wardrobe that looks great on you, but don’t overdo it. Don’t wear more than three pieces of jewelry or more than three colors. Don’t dress like a rock star unless you’re in a band. If you want to be flashy, a simpler but stylish look would be sporting a black striped dress shirt with a white blazer, a dark pair of jeans, a dressy belt, and your sharpest dress shoes. You could also add a flashy watch or a simple accessory like an interesting necklace, but nothing more. Check out out our article on basics to refresh yourself on what areessential wardrobe items. 3. Change the way you see casual–casual doesn’t have to be boring. Have fun withcollared shirts, or take some inspiration from those who approach casual a bitdifferently. 4.Pay attention to your supporting pieces- Some sweaters are lean and others are big and chunky. The first rule of thumb is that your top and bottom halves need to match. If you’re wearing a big, chunky, rugged fisherman knit sweater, your bottom needs to be rugged, too. Don’t wear a fisherman’s sweater with a beautiful silk-and-wool suit pant. Instead, wear it with something as casual as cargos or jeans, or dress it up with a Harris tweed blazer. 5. Never go shopping alone– Most of the time, it’s tough to trust the sales people because they usually work for commission. Shop with a friend who will give you their honest opinion. Also, read aboutshopping on a budget. 6. Stay a notch above–Don’t overdo it to a fault, but dare to take some risks. It’s always better to be a little bit overdressed than underdressed in any setting. All you have to do is think about where and who you’re going to be with and just step it up one notch. But make sure you’re not better dressed than someone who is more important in a certain setting, like your boss. 7.Never underestimate the power of details– The last thing on is usually the first thing noticed. So mind the details instead of throwing together the main parts of your outfit.“Details”can include a scarf, a subtle pocket square, or the way you tie yourtie knot. 8. Invest in a superb pair of shoes– If it’s one thing that women will notice, it’s your shoes. Especially how clean and sharp they look. It’s easy to wash and press the rest of your clothes to keep them looking new, but most guys disregard their shoes. Show that you’re a man of taste by getting agreat pair of shoesand keeping them in pristine condition. 9. Fashion Tees with logos– When you’re going around with a big logo on your shirt, you risk looking like a walking billboard. Lose the lame Coca-Cola shirt and go for a classic v-neck tee or something artsy (check outthreadless.com). 10. Disregard trends– Beware of buying something just because it’s “in” right now–stick to what you truly like. A lot of people rush to get in on the latest trend and end up with a bunch of clothes they don’t wear. It’s better to learn to build a versatile and timeless wardrobe first–then bring in your own twists with some of the new fashion. This one tip will save you so much money! Read up on our compiled list of40 Common Men’s Fashion Mistakesfor extra info. 11. Don’t be a sucker for brand names–Don’t be aPatrick Bateman. Before you decide to purchase an item, ask yourself if you are buying it simply because of the brand name or because you love the quality and style. Ask yourself, “Would I buy this if there was no logo on it?”Check out our article onhow to look designer for less. 12. Continually cultivate your image–Invest more time and money into your image. Cultivate your fashion sense. Your style is a huge mode of communication, and is worth caring for as much as your education, career, and relationships. Sign up for our freecrash courseon knowing your own style. Oscar Schoffler, longtime fashion editor of Esquire once said,“Never underestimate the power of what you wear. After all, there’s just a small bit of yourself sticking out at the collar and cuff. The rest of the world sees what you drape on your frame.” 13. Ask for real feedback- Most of your friends and family aren’t going to go out of their way to tell you what looks bad. You have to ask for it. In fact, ask anyone and everyone you trust to tell you the truth. Ask your hairstylist, ask your best friend, ask your mother! If you think they might be too nice, send me an e-mail (nicolas@bonnegueule.fr), I have no problem giving out real feedback. 14.Upgrade your shave- Even if your fashion is golden, an unkempt beard can be an attraction killer. Achieve aperfect shaveby trying a shave brush&old-fashioned double-edged razor. 15. Experiment with style– The only way you’ll really learn, is if you go out there and try new things. I make an effort to try something completely out of my comfort zone whenever I’m at a store–many times you’ll end up loving something you never thought you would. If you make mistakes, life goes on. So many guys are afraid to express themselves through their style, don’t be one of them. Check out our article onhow to put an outfit together

Human nature is very strange. People believe that if something comes at a low cost, it probably has little value, while if things are more difficult to possess, they are automatically of better quality and more valuable. This is where the expression, you get what you pay for , comes from. In other words, people judge things based on what they must give up, rather than what they could earn. Still not convinced? Ask yourself why certain groups such as the armed forces, sports teams, work teams, and even gangs require initiations before accepting members? This is definitely not just for the pure fun of having them. In fact, if you look deeper into the root of initiations, you will see that they serve a very important function. Initiations are sometimes raw, cruel, grotesque and demeaning. The purpose is to make it hard to obtain membership into the group. Once the new candidate becomes a member, he will appreciate his membership with greater loyalty. After all, he did have to pay a big price to become a member by going through the initiation process. In the end, he will reason that if he spent a lot of effort in order to become a member, it must be because the group has high value and is well worth the trouble. The same principle applies to the dating game. In general, a woman will always cherish a friendship, but she will always go crazy for that charmingman for whom she had to work hard to get

Number 1. Create abundant choices for yourself. When you make a decision there’s a big difference between deciding whether or not to take the ONE option available, and trying to choose between an ABUNDANCE of options. Most guys have the mindset, “It’s either her, or nothing.” Most women have the mindset, “I can have any guy I want, so which one do I like best?” Take a moment and think about the subtle differences in your thinking, communicating and acting when you have MANY choices and you need to conserve your time, as opposed to having just one choice and having to figure out how to get it. Learn to think and behave as if you have all the choices in the world, then work on making that a REALITY by continually educating yourself on how to succeed with women and dating. What do you think about our 10 infallible tips?

Number 2 Learn to tell if a woman is single quicklyEver wonder if an attractive woman is single? If you develop the ability to be good at “reading” whether a woman is single or not, you’ll be able to behave with her right from the start in a confident, knowing way. And you’ll also stop taking it personally and getting hung up on women who seem cold to you because you’ll know WHY they seem occupied. To figure out if a woman is available or not start teasing her, if she continues to spar with you as you bust her balls, it’s usually a big signal that she’s available and open to you. Practice guessing if a woman is single or not until you can tell quickly and accurately. When you do, it will blow her mind that you knew her relationship status without her saying a word about it. She’ll see you as an insightful, intuitive guy — precisely the kind of guy she’s attracted to

Number 3. Show her that you’d make a great sexual partner Animals have certain traits (like the male peacock’s giant tail feathers) that signal to females who will make a healthy mate. These signals are difficult to fake (you either have the feathers or you don’t), so females rely on them heavily when deciding who to mate with. Female humans also look for these “honest signals,” and lucky for us they can be learned (unlike the feathers). Focus on developing these honest signals like dominant posture, slow gestures and movement, strong eye contact, indifference, and cocky comedy. When you master these signals, women will have NO CHOICE but to take notice of you.

Number 4. Become friends with attractive women. If you’re going out to meet women, is it better to be rolling with two horny guy friends or is it better to be rolling with two attractive female friends who love you? Exactly. Making friends, ACTUAL FRIENDS, with several attractive women is one of the best strategies for consistently meeting women without having to deal with any kind of anxiety over approaching women. When I say make friends with these women, I mean ACTUALLY make friends. It’s fine to flirt, tease and have fun with them, but they are going to be your friends so it’s best to keep your grubby mitts off of them. Keep these friendships intact and they’ll introduce you to TONS of available women. They’ll literally BRING THEM TO YOU

Number 5. Tell her she’d make an interesting friend. If a woman uses the phrase, “He’s just a friend,” what she typically means is that the guy is interested in her but doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell of having a romantic relationship with her. So turn the tables. If you are talking to a woman and you can tell she’s starting to feel for you, say to her: “You know, I think you’re going to make an interesting friend.” Women RARELY — IF EVER — hear this from a man. It will set you up as a challenge in her mind and cause her to be MORE LIKELY to want to be with you in a romantic way.

Number 5 Tell her she’d make an interesting friendIf a woman uses the phrase, “He’s just a friend,” what she typically means is that the guy is interested in her but doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell of having a romantic relationshipwith her. So turn the tables. If you are talking to a woman and you can tell she’s starting to feel for you, say to her: “You know, I think you’re going to make an interesting friend.” Women RARELY — IF EVER — hear this from a man. It will set you up as a challenge in her mind and cause her to be MORE LIKELY to want to be with you in a romantic way.

Number 6 Stop devaluing yourselfHumans have a hardwired system for assigning value in our heads. If something is easy to get, we don’t think it has much value, but when it’s hard to get we naturally assume it must be VERY valuable. If you want to DROP your value to zero instantly in a woman’s eyes, all you have to do is make yourself easy to get a hold of — be readily available and obviously very interested. On the other hand, if you want to INCREASE your value in a big way, you need to do the opposite. Make yourself busy so you’re difficult to get a hold of, and when you do talk to a woman, make sure you get off the phone and go do something interesting and make sure you tell her about the activity right before you say, “Gotta go, bye!” Make sure you have all kinds of other options going on in your life so you CAN’T become too available.

Number 7. Let her chase you. When most guys meet an attractive woman, they think about things completely BACKWARD. They usually decide quickly that she is what they want, so they pursue which causes her to run away, which leads them wanting her more. BAD NEWS. Instead, try flipping this whole scenario on its head. The next time you meet a woman you’re hot for, instead of deciding SHE is what YOU want, take the perspective that YOU are the kind of guy SHE wants. Then when she starts to pursue you, run away. It’ll make her want you that much more. When you realize the steps that women use to attract us guys, you can use these same steps to attract THEM. Nice.

Number 8. Never communicate low status The ultimate mistake you can make when it comes to status — and the one guys make over and over again — is trying to trade your status for her APPROVAL. I call this becoming a WUSSY just to get a woman to like you. This one single thing you may do and it will almost GUARANTEE that she will NEVER feel a gut-level attraction for you. It’s so obvious and so pervasive that it’s almost invisible. This is the ultimate mistake men make with women. Whatever you do, never communicate lower status to try to get a woman to like you. It never, ever works. Stop putting yourself down and let her chase you

Number 9. Communicate high status properly The great news is that you can communicate high status even if you’re not good-looking, rich or famous. The first thing you need to do is STOP communicating LOWER status. Men typically communicate lower status by justifying, defending or explaining themselves. By seeking approval and by allowing things to affect them emotionally these men are portraying themselves a weak and in the lower status department. Stop doing these things immediately. Resist the temptation to explain yourself, be the center of your own universe and keep your cool. If you do, you’ll make HUGE headway in becoming the high-status guy women can’t get enough of.

Number 10. Become the high-status manThere are many logical reasons why women are attracted to high-status men, but the fact is that it’s TRUE and it’s not going to CHANGE anytime soon. If a woman perceives you as holding a higher status than her, you instantly qualify for the I’ll-consider-it group in her mind. If a woman perceives you as holding a LOWER status than her, she will instantly and unconsciously put you in the not-a-chance mental category. And if you communicate your status in just the right way, you can trigger a powerful and instantaneous attraction inside of a woman that will be impossible for her to ignore. She’ll FEEL IT. Luckily, this is something ANY guy can do.

What would your life be like if you knew — beyond a shadow of a doubt — how to make ANY woman feel a deep, gut-level attractionfor you? Pretty awesome, no? But most guys are completely clueless in this area. They think the answer lies in “pickup lines” and pheromones. Nothing could be further from the truth. If you want to learn how to turn a woman on, you need to learn what it takes to spark ATTRACTION. Here are 10 tips to get you started on the path of women, women and more women.

Top 10: Ways To Become Irresistible To Women It's Time To Get Women To See The Real You Let's face it: In today's dating economy, hot, interesting women can pretty much pick and choose the men they want to date. In vying for the attention of said women, most men obsess about things they can't change about themselves like their looks, their car or their job. Bad move. Truth is, for most of us, none of that's changing any time soon, so you need to maximize what you have right now. Once you know how to do that, you canbecome irresistible to any woman, even if she seems, wait for it, "out of your league." Check out these top 10 ways to become irresistible to the women you dream about right here.

Sometimes it can be difficult to know where you stand after a first date. You were probably so busy worrying about yourself and trying not to make a fool of yourself that you forgot to pay attention to the signs she was giving you. There is a lot you can learn from reflecting on your first date experience, and it will give you a pretty good idea of whether or not you should expect a second date, should you ask for one. If you can check off most of the boxes on this list, you can pretty safely bet she's into you at least enough to secure a second date.

The things that happened leading up to the date can tell you a lot about how interested she was in the date in the first place. Did she show up on time? Did she reschedule it? When she first agreed to the date her outlook on it could have been anywhere from reluctant acceptance to delightful anticipation. Reflect on these things and use that information to build a bigger picture. If every other part of the date seemed to go south, you might want to look all the way back to the beginning to see if there were any red flags before you two even started your first date.

When you guys first said met and said your hellos, was there a connection right away? Did you feel comfortable pretty quickly or was it awkward for most of the night? Did it feel like she was trying to make it go smoother or did you have to do all the work? If she wasn’t feeling it, she probably didn't ask you too many questions, and didn’t try all that hard to lead the discussion anywhere. The early part of the date can be a good indicator, but even if things were a bit stale then, there’s still always the chance that things turned around later.

The Golden Rules of being a player, if you will—are about picking up and satisfying women. Usually referred to as The Player's Code, these are the lessons and modes of conduct that giveThe Playeran advantage over just some"guy looking to pick up,"which is most males. You probably already do some of these things, but could use work on others. Most of these points will not be assimilated into your routine overnight; they require practice and dedication. After all, while it might not be easy to become a true player, it's certainly worth the effort—not to mention it's a fun ride. Today, we cover phase one of The Player's activities: the art of the pickup. the art of the pickup 1- Always be mentally ready to pick up There are attractive women all around us—at the supermarket or waiting on you at a clothing store, in line at the bank, on the street... I actually get more than half of my pickups in such random places. While my conversion rate on these is slightly lower than with women Imeet at barsor parties (they're not expressly looking for it), unexpected locations have turned up some pretty good finds. Remember: Women don't expect to be hit on as they go about their daily lives, and, therefore, they are that much more flattered when it happens. Most often, I'll strike up a conversation while waiting in a store, based on what's going on around us. You could comment on the wait ("I hope there's a meal at the end of this line"), what she's chosen to buy ("Huh, I looked at that but passed it up. Have I made a mistake?"), or anything, really. It could be on the street, too. The point is, you have a few moments to notice a hot woman, then look around, think of a clever line and deliver it in your mostconfident manner. But approaching strangers is, in itself, a little nerve-wracking, let alone hot women. A good way to improve your skills is by starting casual small talk with random people—both men and women whom you're not necessarily attracted to. Then you won't feel the pressure of impressing them. If you're already pretty comfortable chatting, then next time you see a woman you like on the street you can approach her without being nervous

Having your neighbor’s phone number is a requirement as a neighbor. You have a responsibility to be part of the community, even Buffalo Bob did this much. It’s much better in the text era; you don’t have to talk to them, just text. This comes in handy when you need a parking spot, or perhaps you have a psychotic ex-girlfriend who is ransacking your place while you are at work – hypothetically of course. Having contact info for one neighbor is a requirement for societal living and it just might save your ass one day. The flip side is getting too close with your neighbors. You get that person who constantly invites you to lame dinner parties on odd nights, like Mondays when you just want to soak into your couch with a tall glass of detox and quiet. Then they get mad at you for not showing up and keep reminding you of it every time you see them. Before you know it you are parking a block away and using the “service entrance” as your main point of entry into your home. Being friendly does not require that you actually become friends. Another reason to avoid holding hands and singing Kumbaya with your neighbors is that they might piss you off one day and you need to have a “Come To Jesus” chat. Say your neighbor gives you grief about coming home one night at 2am and plugging in your amp for a little late night jam session. Giving you grief about that is fine, as long as they don’t have a 6 month renovation project that starts every morning at 7am! I wake you up at 2am one night, and you wake me up at 7am every damn morning for the last 4 months. The point is that it’s much more difficult to be stern with your neighbor when you are constantly breaking bread and drinking wine on his patio. Having a little privacy is also beneficial. Be friendly, but not friends. You don’t have to love thy neighbor as the bible says, but you should try to like thy neighbor, at least that is what I try to do. Thanks For Reading !

How To Handle and Nurture Relationships With Your Neighbors I’ve always said that I don’t have time for neighbors. When I’m leaving the house I am often in a hurry. When I am coming home I have to go to the bathroom or need to pour some bourbon. I have no time or desire to talk about trash pickup or the two clouds in the sky, or the Bed Bath & Beyond flyer that floated over the property line. Therefore it always takes me longer than most to get to know my neighbors. For the most part I am fine with that. What works against the friendly neighbor is that you only see them when they are at the foot of your driveway. They may be the coolest people but just like relationships, timing is everything. They are like the tree huggers that stand outside Whole Foods asking you to sign petitions. Let me come bother you on your lunch break and see if you feel like listening to my monologue about biodiversity and its socio-economic impact on nature conservation. Neighbor Relations You need to nurture some sort of relationship with you neighbors, if for no other reason than Homeland Security! I mean home security. You and your least annoying neighbor should have each other’s phone number for emergencies. Just recently a friend of mine went to work and had to leave in the afternoon because her entire apartment was on fire, with her dog Sophie trapped inside. Her neighbor called her.

LOVE THY NEIGHBOR – LIKE THY NEIGHBOR As I left my house last night to walk a short 10 blocks into town to hustle up some dinner I noticed some people in black outfits in my driveway. Mind you I live in a fishbowl where houses literally touch each other and you get woken up by your neighbor playing PS2-Box, doing jazzercise or snoring. The beach is across the street so we tolerate the coziness … more on that later. As I get closer I see that these black dressed people are actually caterers unloading a car. I get a little closer and I see that my neighbor is hosting a fancy catered dinner on his patio, a mere 10 feet from my house. My first thought – Where was my invitation?! I’m a good neighbor. I probably would not have gone but I would have liked to have been invited. How dare they?! Rude. After all, last week I hosted a holiday party at a boutique hotel in town and left an invitation on their door step. It was the day before, but it still counts as an official invitation! After a few more blocks of walking and thinking I came to the conclusion that this is the way neighbor relations are supposed to go down.

put the spotlight on her A woman requires your attention but she doesn’t wish to be smothered and, in fact, she’s usually seeking a man who can get her talking. Perhaps the most challenging barrier is the one that stands between you and a steady stream of conversation, which is why you must put her in the limelight and keep her there. Manage this, and the rest’s a breeze

Use compliments and observations Usually, men have game plans when they first speak to anattractive woman. They’ve rehearsed it in their heads a hundred times and if they stray from this plan, they run the risk of becoming flustered. However, the key to engaging in conversation is fluidity and sparks of spontaneity, which are the common human elements that arise when two people enjoy each other’s company and don’t rely on preset“plans.” So, when you go over there, make your mark by paying attention to her andprovingyour attentiveness. If she cracks a joke that strikes you as particularly funny or if she agrees with you on the latest movie, make the effort to build on that compatibility.“You know,somany people don’t understand that!”“I just love your laugh.”“You’re really easy to talk to.” Compliments on her physical appearance are socially bourgeois, anyway. Go deeper. Observe and complimenther

Fix on a topic of her choosing Guys are always more comfortable when talking about a subject they introduced. But it happens so often—we need to be comfortable in such situations—thatmost womenare left nodding their heads, sipping their cocktail and scanning the room for someone who doesn’t have to listen to himself jabber. After the preliminary niceties, see if you can’t latch onto a topic she has partially unsheathed, and then grasp it firmly. She brought it up; how can she grow bored with her own topic? However, bear in mind that only seasoned veterans should really attempt this on a frequent basis; it really is much easier to have a prepared“in,”and there’s no way to prepare for the unknown. However, if you’re successful with this tip, you will ingratiate yourself immediately and score big points by allowing her to take command.

Ask leading questions Interviewers are told never to ask questions that only require a“yes”or“no”answer and they’re encouraged to pursue the most detailed responses possible. It’s not much different when you first speak to a receptive hottie, when it’s essential that you get her talking and directly involved in the conversation. Therefore, instead of asking thedefault chitchatquestions like;“So, are you enjoying yourself?”(blimey, she could evennodin reply to that) and,“Can I buy you a drink?”(not a ton of elaboration required), be original and you’ll hold a woman’s attention. Ask her what shethinksabout certain things. Once you’ve learned about her job, ask a specific (hopefully semi-intelligent) question about it. If you do this correctly,sheshould end up talking more than you and that’s exactly what you want. Most times, it’s what the girl wants too, regardless of any claims to the contrary. In record time, you will become a sensitive, respectfullistener

Maintain eye contact If you ask women, they will say that a lack of eye contact has become a serious issue these days. I attribute this to the electronic age in which everyone, even adults, can only seem to stare at the tips of their sneakers and mumble. Texting doesn’t help communication skills, people. And after you’ve finally mustered the courage to speak to that exquisite bombshell who's been dominating the dance floor, you had best look into those beautiful eyes when you begin the discussion. Now, you don’t have to stare into her eyes for minutes on end—there’s a fine line between attentive and maniacal—but always make sure to meet her gaze on a continual basis. Women don’t seem to have this problem, but let’s not forget that eye contact has a lot to do with confidence, and it’s rarely the woman who endures these trials at the club. Admit it, ladies.

Find a good conversational spot It’s impossible to form a connection when screaming in her ear over the loud music or attempting to have a one-on-one conversation amid a sea of shoulders. If you’ve successfully snagged her interest at the start, take the initiative and lead her to a place where the two of you can talk in a more agreeable setting. Make sure that you've established a positive foundation first, though; a woman will be more likely to agree to this if she actually wants to learn more about you. The bottom line is that in order to hold a woman’s attention, you must leave the crushing crowd and discussion-destroying music as far behind as possible. This shows you’re interested in more than her body, that you find her interesting and enjoy speaking with her, and that you respect and appreciate good communication. And if things go well during this“separation phase,”it’s that much easier to take the next step

Many men labor under the misapprehension that the most difficult aspect of flirting isthe initial approach. And while one can always sweat and obsess over the intimidating prospect of walking up to a woman and saying“hi,”the deciding factor is the interaction that immediately follows. The importance of afirst impressioncannot be understated, and if you wish to score a victory, you must not only grab a woman's attention, but you must alsoholdit. Believe it or not, this is where the vast majority of encounters fall apart for men. Up to this point, they’ve managed to net the requisite eye contact andbody languagefrom across the room, received a boost of confidence from a few encouraging smiles and have now embarked upon the actual conversation. They figure they’re golden—they relax. And before they know it, the woman has thanked them for the drink and disappeared into the crowd. What happened? Well, whatever just went down, it doesn’thaveto happen

Many men labor under the misapprehension that the most difficult aspect of flirting isthe initial approach. And while one can always sweat and obsess over the intimidating prospect of walking up to a woman and saying“hi,”the deciding factor is the interaction that immediately follows. The importance of afirst impressioncannot be understated, and if you wish to score a victory, you must not only grab a woman's attention, but you must alsoholdit. Believe it or not, this is where the vast majority of encounters fall apart for men. Up to this point, they’ve managed to net the requisite eye contact andbody languagefrom across the room, received a boost of confidence from a few encouraging smiles and have now embarked upon the actual conversation. They figure they’re golden—they relax. And before they know it, the woman has thanked them for the drink and disappeared into the crowd. What happened? Well, whatever just went down, it doesn’thaveto happen

Etiquette doesn't just mean RSVPs and dinner party manners, it's a reflection of your entire outlook on social interaction and public life. Not holding the door open for a little old lady says something about you to everyone who sees it -- namely, that you can't spare five seconds to be a half-decent guy. In most situations, yourimageandappearanceisn't just part of what defines you; it's the only thing that defines you. People who don't know anything about you are going to fill in the blanks with the only information they have, which is how they see you behave. Regardless of how you think of yourself, one awful socialhabitcan easily become the thing that comes to identify you: Anyone who sees you chewing your food like a cow and acting belligerent toward your waitress is going to remember that stuff far before your job title or sophisticated wit.

Etiquette doesn't just mean RSVPs and dinner party manners, it's a reflection of your entire outlook on social interaction and public life. Not holding the door open for a little old lady says something about you to everyone who sees it -- namely, that you can't spare five seconds to be a half-decent guy. In most situations, yourimageandappearanceisn't just part of what defines you; it's the only thing that defines you. People who don't know anything about you are going to fill in the blanks with the only information they have, which is how they see you behave. Regardless of how you think of yourself, one awful socialhabitcan easily become the thing that comes to identify you: Anyone who sees you chewing your food like a cow and acting belligerent toward your waitress is going to remember that stuff far before your job title or sophisticated wit.

Etiquette doesn't just mean RSVPs and dinner party manners, it's a reflection of your entire outlook on social interaction and public life. Not holding the door open for a little old lady says something about you to everyone who sees it -- namely, that you can't spare five seconds to be a half-decent guy. In most situations, yourimageandappearanceisn't just part of what defines you; it's the only thing that defines you. People who don't know anything about you are going to fill in the blanks with the only information they have, which is how they see you behave. Regardless of how you think of yourself, one awful socialhabitcan easily become the thing that comes to identify you: Anyone who sees you chewing your food like a cow and acting belligerent toward your waitress is going to remember that stuff far before your job title or sophisticated wit.

Etiquette doesn't just mean RSVPs and dinner party manners, it's a reflection of your entire outlook on social interaction and public life. Not holding the door open for a little old lady says something about you to everyone who sees it -- namely, that you can't spare five seconds to be a half-decent guy. In most situations, yourimageandappearanceisn't just part of what defines you; it's the only thing that defines you. People who don't know anything about you are going to fill in the blanks with the only information they have, which is how they see you behave. Regardless of how you think of yourself, one awful socialhabitcan easily become the thing that comes to identify you: Anyone who sees you chewing your food like a cow and acting belligerent toward your waitress is going to remember that stuff far before your job title or sophisticated wit.

Etiquette doesn't just mean RSVPs and dinner party manners, it's a reflection of your entire outlook on social interaction and public life. Not holding the door open for a little old lady says something about you to everyone who sees it -- namely, that you can't spare five seconds to be a half-decent guy. In most situations, yourimageandappearanceisn't just part of what defines you; it's the only thing that defines you. People who don't know anything about you are going to fill in the blanks with the only information they have, which is how they see you behave. Regardless of how you think of yourself, one awful socialhabitcan easily become the thing that comes to identify you: Anyone who sees you chewing your food like a cow and acting belligerent toward your waitress is going to remember that stuff far before your job title or sophisticated wit.

Be the best dressed in the room.

No sloppy dressing. Never ever go out in rumpled or dirty clothes.Thats definitely a turn-off for girls

Learn how to play an instrument

Sculpt your body to look like a Greek god.

No girl on the globe wants to be seen with a guy that is competing with her in boobs. She wants a guy that will make other girls jealous. You might argue and say 'what of all those girls that chase aristos chase up and down' We all know they do it for the 'mula' and nothing else. So get off your lazy ass and go workout. Even if you cant afford a gym, do press-ups, pull-ups etc. After a few weeks of doing these you will see remarkable changes in your body

Be mysterious

This is very important. Some guys tell a girl they just met all about themselves. What is then left for the girl to look forward to. Girls love suprises and there is no way you can suprise a girl if she already knows everything you are capable of.

The Ryan Gosling Guide to Impressing Women

Be honest

Ryan Gosling: guys want to be him, girls want to marry him. What's not to love about the guy? Sure sometimes he plays weird characters in movies, but the fact remains the Gangster Squad star is one of the most sought after actors in Hollywood right now, and given his A-list status, it's fair to assume that he knows a thing or two about getting girls to go home with him at the end of the night.
But how does Gosling do it? How does the modern day Mr. Steal Your Girl, pick up girls so effortlessly? It's very clear he operates a little more smoothly than the average Joe, but if you watch his movies—which, let's face it, you've probably seen more than a few—you'll eventually come to the realization that there are a few simple and effective steps to attracting the girl of your dreams. And we're about to let you in on his secrets to success. 

Do you ever get tired of being treated like a rag by females? Do you ever get tired of guys calling you "the dulling guy" do you ever get tired of people disregarding your opinion? if you do, watch out for my next post which will show you how to become the KING you deserve to be