When She's Not Into You Rejecting someone can be really awkward, and a lot of girls go out of their way to distance themselves without actually coming out and saying it. Chances are, she's not going to spell it out for you in bold, capital letters. She's going to keep dropping hints and really, really hope you get the message. Hopefully you've become wise to a lot of these subtle rejections, but if you hear them on a regular basis and still keep trying, maybe it's time to take a step back.