Find a good conversational spot It’s impossible to form a connection when screaming in her ear over the loud music or attempting to have a one-on-one conversation amid a sea of shoulders. If you’ve successfully snagged her interest at the start, take the initiative and lead her to a place where the two of you can talk in a more agreeable setting. Make sure that you've established a positive foundation first, though; a woman will be more likely to agree to this if she actually wants to learn more about you. The bottom line is that in order to hold a woman’s attention, you must leave the crushing crowd and discussion-destroying music as far behind as possible. This shows you’re interested in more than her body, that you find her interesting and enjoy speaking with her, and that you respect and appreciate good communication. And if things go well during this“separation phase,”it’s that much easier to take the next step